As time progressed, Drake said that we shouldn't take his shock as disapproval. I'm pretty sure his agent or PR firm suggested that he say that before letting this go any further. The problem here is that men force themselves on women and end up with sexual harrassment charges as well they should, but when women force themselves upon men, men usually laugh it off when in reality it is just as severe. Men get sexually harrassed and assaulted as do women just not in as large of a majority. Ignoring pleas from assualted and raped men is just like ignoring it from a woman. Not only will it affect that persons personality but also their inner most thoughts that can lead to depression. Depression that could lead an individual to the deepest and darkest parts of their mind. This is something that really has to be taken seriously if we ever have dreams of true equality.
You know when I first saw this video I didn’t think much of it, but if the roles were reversed and Drake forced himself upon Madonna, I would have been appalled. Looking at this tape again (because after I watched it, I promptly forgot about it) it’s disgusting. I find it odd and somewhat disturbing that people were so quick to point out Madonna’s age and gender, like you said, and not the fact that she was forcing herself upon Drake.
ReplyDeleteI think a lot of people don’t think about how wrong this is for 1) the misconception of women being weaker than men, therefore they cannot sexually violate them (which is very, very false and misconstrued) and 2) that if a man is approached in a sexual manner by a woman, he should accept no matter what because that is his being. I think both are horrible ways of thinking, and we should not excuse someone’s actions because of his/her gender.
The sad truth is that, for the most part, in this society, men are never "allowed" to be "weak" or "vulnerable". That translates into people not understanding that sexual harassment goes both ways. Like you said Taylor, when a man is approached by a woman he is told he must accept the advances because he is a man and that is what manly men do.
ReplyDeleteI watch this show Shameless, on Showtime (great show, highly recommend it).A couple week ago, they played out this story line with Debby and her boyfriend (ex-boyfriend, I don't know it was confusing). She wanted to loose her virginity, but he wasn't willing to take that step because there was a rather large age gap between the two of them. Anyway, she gets him drunk at a party one night and has sex with him when he is passed out. When the two wake up the next morning, the boy is totally freaked out (as he should be) and starts telling Debby that she raped him (which she did). I was thinking "oh, okay. Sort of a strange topic, but maybe the show will use this to talk about equality". I was wrong. Th show kept with it for an episode or two, Debby saying she felt guilty and she was sorry and that was the end of it. It saddens me that we can't as a society there has to be sexual harassment at all, but people are sick and it happens all the time. The first step, in my opinion to stopping sexual harassment, is to realize as a community that it can happen to anyone, no matter the gender.